What is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from going down?
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Allah Ijazik inshala for the good help, advise and knowledge you are helping the muslims with. I have learnt alot about Islam since i started reading your website.
I have been married for almost 3 years now, and have an 8months old baby. My husband fell for shaytan and commited zinaa at the same time when i was giving birth to our child. He has since then changed for the worst.
By the Grace of Allah i came to find out the whole truth and he admitted it after almost 6months of secret life with the other woman. He is a very sensitive and emotional man. Everytime he wishes to repent, the woman would come back trying to make him guilty of what he did-she even claims to be pregnant.
He doesnt pray - i have been trying to change him to pray since we married, but it has been on and off. He has weak Iman and lies about everything. He is a good man at heart, and always respected me. But has now lost respect for me - in that he calls me bad names, raised his hand and all that. I do not want to believe in this but i feel like the other woman has done sihr fo him, because she deals with witchcraft alot.
At this point, i have decided to divorce him - but he refuses to. i pray for him to change - but he seems worse everyday. he doesnt pray at all, lies, doesnt take responsibility of the family, doesnt want to work. I do not know what to do to save my marriage. He was not in this state when he married me, so i know it is not his nature. His family has tried to talk him. My family has tried to itnervene, his friends. Nothing works.
I am at a very shaking stage. I do not want to lose my husband to shaytan, but still i can not live through all this stress.
What is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from going down? i want to help my husband change, and want Allah to help guide him to the right path, is there any particular du'a that i have to read to get the "sihr" out of him? please help me urgently.
I pray that Allah helps me through this difficult time and give me the wisdom to know right from wrong.
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: is there any particular du'a that i have to read to get the "sihr" out of him?
Allah Says in His Holy Quran Chapter 35 Surah Fatir verse 2:
2 What Allah out of His Mercy doth bestow on mankind there is none can withhold: what He doth withhold there is none can grant apart from Him: and He is the Exalted in Power Full of Wisdom.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 160:
If Allah helps you none can overcome you: if He forsakes you who is there after that that can help you? In Allah then let believers put their trust.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 51:
Say: "Nothing will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us: He is our Protector"; and on Allah let the believers put their trust.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 17:
17 If Allah touch thee with affliction none can remove it but He; if He touch thee with happiness He hath power over all things.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 3:
And put your trust in Allah Alone; and enough is Allah as a Disposer of affairs.
Allah is our witness sister, if all the magicians of the world were to get together and plot and plan to bring about any harm upon anyone, they would not even be able to damage even one hair on the body of that individual without the precise Will and Permission of Allah Subhanah, the Lord of the Worlds! Thus one should neither fear the Jinns, nor the magicians, nor anything evil approaching them from the ‘unseen’, but rather one should fear Allah their Lord, and keep their full trust and belief in Him and Him Alone.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4563 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri
Allah's Messenger (saws used to seek refuge in Allah from jinn and the evil eye in men till the Mu'awwidhatan (Surah 113 Al-Falaq and Surah 114 An-Naas) were revealed, after which he (saws) made use of them and abandoned everything else.
If ever one fears any evil from any quarter of the ‘unseen’, the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) dictates that one recite the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas), seeking refuge and putting their complete trust and faith in the Power and Strength and Protection of Allah Subhanah Alone; it is expected that their Lord Most High will protect them from any and all evil and no evil or harm will be able to approach them from any quarter whatsoever.
Your Question: …..What is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from going down?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:
Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:
The woman and the man guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication), flog each one of them with a hundred stripes, and let not pity for them restrain you in regard to a matter prescribed by Allah; if indeed you believe in Allah and the Last Day! And let a section of the believers witness the punishment inflicted on them.
Zina (fornication and adultery) are considered amongst the gravest sins in Islam. One can imagine the severity of the sin, by the punishment Allah and His Messenger (saws) have decreed for the sin. If one is living in an Islamic State and gets convicted of the sin of zina (adultery), the punishment prescribed by Allah and His Messenger (saws) for the life of this world is that the convict should be stoned to death!! And if the person dies without making Taubah or seeking sincere repentance for his transgression from Allah Subhanah in the life of this world, the punishment of the Hereafter in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah is much more severe and lasting!!
Dear and beloved sister in Islam, as a believing and God-fearing wife of a husband who has transgressed the bounds of the Lord and committed ‘zina’, you have two lawful options in Islam:
Option-1: If you believe that your husband committed the evil of zina in ignorance, fears Allah and His Day of Accounting, and is sincerely ashamed and repentant for his abomination of a crime….and you can bring yourself to forgive him, it would be best to forgive him his sin and save your marriage.
Option-2: But if you see that your husband neither fears Allah nor the Day of Judgment, nor is he ashamed nor repentant for his heinous crime….and given half an opportunity he would indulge in the same transgression again; you are well within your rights in Islam and it would be best to initiate a divorce proceeding and separate yourself from such an evil and impious person.
But my beloved sister in Islam, as long as you are married to him, regardless of whether he fulfills his rights towards you or not….it is your duty as a believing and God-fearing woman to fulfill all your rights towards him in marriage. Even if it may seem that the unjust party might get away with his injustice and crime in the life of this world, rest absolutely assured that he will never ever get away with his injustice and oppression in the Majestic Presence of the Lord Most High on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,