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Assalam o alaikum

 

Many thanks for your kindness to reply my email. I have been so confused and desperate since the last 3 months, and dont know how to handle it all.

 

I read your comments , and understand to your explaination. Once about the rule of maintain two wifes, kindly pls guide me trhu Quran and hadist, I ve read once, that in keeping of two wifes there is also rules in Islamic syariah in front of Allah, so  there will be no one being unjustify .

 

If i  take first option to keep my marriage in the name of Allah and on behave of my 4 innocent kids, I see so far he treat us not fair, he more prefer on his second wife, and his new son than us.

 

Mostly I have been ignored and so are my  four kids.

Kindly pls reply me on this , so i can put my self in proper ways according to the syariah of islam rule.

 

Burhan bhai, I was being cheated by my husband, ignored by him,  and also he deny me and kids on written legal paper by report as single person to married 2nd wife.

 

What is more in the next future, How about him self? Allah will do justice for us ?

I have lost of hope, upset, and so desperate, can you give me some surah in quran to be read everydays, so i can power my heart again ?

 

Waiting for reply.

 

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Answer:

 

Husband not treating two wives equally

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Statements: …I read your comments , and understand to your explaination. Once about the rule of maintain two wifes, kindly pls guide me trhu Quran and hadist, I ve read once, that in keeping of two wifes there is also rules in Islamic syariah in front of Allah, so  there will be no one being unjustify.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3 (part):

3        If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one.

 

Only those believers who are confident that they will be able to do justice between their wives have been given permission by Allah Subhanah to marry more than one wife. 

 

If one amongst the believers chooses to exercise the option and marries more than one wife and does not do justice between his wives in his allocation of equal time and resources, he will be held severely accountable in the Presence of the Lord Most Just on that Inevitable Day of Judgment!

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128  Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.’

 

Your Question: ….If i  take first option to keep my marriage in the name of Allah and on behave of my 4 innocent kids, I see so far he treat us not fair, he more prefer on his second wife, and his new son than us. Mostly I have been ignored and so are my  four kids. Kindly pls reply me on this , so i can put my self in proper ways according to the syariah of islam rule.

Respected sister, if your husband is indeed unfair in the allocation of his time and his resources between his two wives, and you honestly feel that he is more inclined towards his other wife, you have the following two legal options:

1. Bear the injustice of your husband, for the sake of your marriage and your children, in the firm belief that your Lord Most Just will take full account and recompensate you in full for your patience on the Day of Judgment.
2. If you cannot bring yourself to bear the injustice of your husband, you are well within your rights to approach a Shariah Court and demand a permanent separation from your husband through divorce.  Under the circumstances there would be absolutely no blame or sin upon you.

 

Your Question: ….I have lost of hope, upset, and so desperate, can you give me some surah in quran to be read everydays, so i can power my heart again ?

Although one is at absolute liberty to recite any Surah of the Glorious Quran or make any number of supplications one wills and pleases, one amongst the best supplications one can and should constantly make when in severe distress is the supplication made by the Noble Prophet Ayyub (a.s.) and related by Allah Subhanah in His Glorious Quran:

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 21 Surah Anbiyaa verses 83-84:

83      And (remember) Ayyub when he cried to his Lord "Truly distress has seized me, but Thou art the Most Merciful of those that are merciful."

84      So We listened to him:  We removed the distress that was on him, and We restored his people to him, and doubled their number as a Grace from Ourselves, and a thing for commemoration for all who serve Us.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan